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Saturday, 2 November 2013

Dude!!! What is Love???



Have you ever pondered how much of love is “about the heart”… and how much is” about hormones?” Whether love at first sight really happens? This topic had come to my mind when one of my dear friends asked me this. I don’t know what was on her mind but the question was that can a person love two different people at a time???

Love is so confusing, so I wouldn't try to understand it. I will just go with my gut. The thing is that what is love, can a person love twice, can a person love two persons at a time and so on… there are many other questions related to it; and the answer is unknown. The heart is a very complicated thing.

The answer is different from person to person. Some fall in love once or twice in their life time whereas others fall in love many times. What kind of love it is if it happens again and again??

If you go after the surveys and studies you will find that women are fascinated to buddies with money, status, and ambition. If men look for “sex stuffs,” then women look for “success stuffs.” men fall in so called “love” faster than women do. Women take longer because they have to create a “recall track” of their mate’s behaviors. She has to remember what he promised, what he’s done for the relationship they are in, and what he failed to do. If this is true than where is love??

I believe that the first passionate period of love can last one to three years. After that, these feelings diminish. For me remembering someone every day is Love.

Friday, 1 November 2013

He is Back Home



I was simply returning from my work and was chatting on facebook— as I often do; I got a call from my sis that Pawan—my brother is in Goa. I'd been searching for him for more than 7 years. I had lost my hope and I was not expecting to find anything about him.

I hadn't seen him since he left home just after school, but I always felt he was a part of me. We have grown up together and everything was full of memories. As I had told earlier in my previous blogs; he is different from me; rebellious in nature left home without thinking of us. But my brother was out there. I needed to find him and today he is with me. I am happy.

My parents never revealed where he was, perhaps they knew why he left home. I had very little to go on. I knew his first name, when he was born, and I'd seen a very old photo of him with his favourite shirt of that time. When I was in my college, I'd spend hours searching Facebook, Orkut and other websites for a boy named Shekhar, Pawan or Jayant (All are his names).

When my sister informed about him that he is in Facebook with SOURABH KOUSHIK as profile name!!!! I could barely breathe-I almost blacked out. I slammed both of my hands on the desk and was about to cry. Friend asked—what happened???. "I found my brother!" I sobbed, and then ran out to call my parents and give them the news.

By the time I got back to my Facebook account I had found a phone number for him, and without thinking, I dialled and he answered. There was a pause then I asked "How are you my brother?" My heart sank. But I was glad I let him know how much I loved him.

I finally met him; that too on Pune railway station with a huge sign that said "Little brother?” I was practically hyperventilating. Pawan is a tough guy, but he was beaming. I was not crying but smiling so hardy that my face hurt!!

Yet he was changed a lot, his voice, way of talking but in my view he was d same. He has the same smile (he keeps a moustache now :P :P). He is longer than me and eventually asked me "Bhaiya khata kya hai mera bhi body banwao na.” He is at home with mom and dad. Soon I will be going home. I have many things to talk. I have many questions to ask; I have many things to tell.

One thing's for sure: We'll never be seperete, not ever.












Saturday, 12 October 2013

Still not Feeling Happy???

World is full of unhappy people. Very few people are happy these days, but i say everyone can be happy, because every human has remarkable control over his own happiness. A person can be happy without any reason. There are no secrets of being happy rather than doing simple things that don't take much of your time or money.

Listening to upbeat songs can make u happy rather than listening to "Mukesh's Dard bhare Geet" (sad songs) :P.

One or two of my friends i have seen that they fake smiles. Whenever a camera emerges their teeth come out..lol. Now a days i understood that one should smile more n more even if it is fake. Pretend that you are smiling ...u r happy and u will feel happy. On the other hand pretend that u r angry, and u will be angry....and this is true.

One thing i want to confess here..the main reason that i am not a very happy person bcoz i compare myself with others. Stop comparing yourself to others if u wanna stay happy. Instead of doing this what u can do is to be both an optimist and a realist. Being very optimistic sometimes make u sad or unhappy; on the other hand u cant be very realistic all d tym..it hurts you.

I feel happy when ppl praise me for something I am good in. I have read somewhere that one should master a skill whether it is maths or painting or singing, I assure u will be happy for this reason. At the same tym when u say thanks when someone praises u it also makes u happy. Showing gratitude is another way to make yourself happy sometime. So to increase happiness practice gratitude....:)
When u say u r grateful for something u make others happy and in turn u will be happy. 

All the happiness maximizes when u go outside, when u spend time with friends and family, when u plan some trip. In my case i feel happier when i make trip plans with my friends rather the taking a trip coz i feel more excitement lol....:D :D...One should always spend tome with friends and family...don't regret it on your deathbed.


Saturday, 5 October 2013

When I Cried


I know that many of us are ashamed of our tears (boys specially); even me sometimes. But I know that we need never to be ashamed of our tears. There are the times I cried but every time  I tried not to be shown up by anyone. But people know that I am an emotional person.

When someone cries, of course, the decent thing to do is to console them. But if someone tries to hide their tears, it may also be gracious to pretend you have not noticed them, and I do the same.

I barely cry but recently I cried hard after a long time for some reason and realised that those who don't weep, don't see. According to me crying is like raining upon the blinding dust of Earth. I felt more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle. a good thing I felt that a long session of weeping can often make you feel better.

It's a surprising fact that one feels better after crying, although your circumstances have not changed one bit. Many times u want to cry but u wont. You feel that tough persons don't cry but I say that only the luckier one shades tears out of their pain, not everyone. Unless you have been very, very lucky, you have undoubtedly experienced events in your life that have made you cry . Although it's just a small tear, it is the heaviest thing in the world.

Yet I would say don't cry be happy. Be a MAN.